Anal play can be incredibly exciting and pleasurable. We've all seen pictures online of people taking huge toys anally, and maybe that has piqued your interest in trying something like that yourself. Can you do it? The short answer is yes, but it takes time and patience to work up to the behemoths available from places like John Thomas Toys.
Anyone can work their way up to larger toys, but it must be done slowly and carefully. Your anus is capable of some amazing feats of sexual athletics if you train it. So, what are the ground rules for anal stretching? Firstly, lube is definitely your friend, and you should be using lots and lots of it. The inside of your anus doesn't secrete its own lubricant, so it is essential that you lube up well before and during anal training sessions. A quick word about numbing or desensitising lubes, stay away from them. Using them increases the risk of injury when anal stretching; you need to be able to listen to your body, so you can stop before hurting yourself.
Take things slow and set yourself achievable goals, anal training takes time, but the good news is that it feels fantastic, and it is a lot of fun. You need to be in the right mindset, don't do anal stretching exercises if you are stressed out or uptight about anything. It also goes without saying not to do anal stretching if you have any problems back there. If you have caused a micro-fissure during a previous training session, give yourself time to heal before continuing. If you are new to anal play, start with a finger and move on to two fingers as you relax and open up. There is only so much training you can do with your fingers, which will inevitably bring you to sex toys to continue your anal stretching.
Always use body-safe platinum-cure silicone toys for anal play for several reasons. Firstly, it is a nonporous body-safe material that is easy to clean. Secondly, the soft nature of it is forgiving on your anus as you start to train yourself. Choose a silicone stretcher with a tapered shaft, and steer clear of toys with too much texture, as this can make it harder to train yourself for large toys.
Edgware Trainer - tapered shaft
John Thomas Toys make fantastic anal training toys, particularly the Harrow Bulb and POD.
Both of these toys have a gradually widening shaft coupled with a broad base. This makes it easy to use when you can use a vac-u-lock suction cup adaptor to place it vertically or horizontally to give you options for how to use it. Once you have decided what position to use, I can recommend doggy for its control or squatting over a toy if you want to use your weight to help you dilate, lube up. Utilising a lube shooter to get some lube deep inside you is an excellent option, and remember to lube the toy up, too.
When you start inserting the toy, you will feel pressure build up until it overcomes your sphincter muscles and penetrates you. This is where you need to pay attention and take things slowly. Once inside, you need to set up a rhythm of pushing back to take a bit more, then stay still to relax and let your back passage get used to the stretch before backing off and moving a little deeper.
The key here is slow and steady; if it starts to hurt, back off and listen to your body. Each time you do a session like this, you will find yourself taking more and more and loving the feel of the stretching. When choosing a toy, consider your capabilities; don't go for the biggest toy possible. You want to choose something where the first couple of inches are within your ability, and then you can train yourself to take more and more. Anal stretching is a lot of fun, and as long as you remember to lube up and listen to your body, you will be surprised at what you can take.